It’s tough when you feel rejected.
Rejection hurts. And for most of us, it’s not a matter of if we ever feel rejected, it’s when. Anytime we face rejection, we need to remember the following things to help us through it.
1. Everyone feels rejected sometimes.
Some more than others, but everyone feels rejected at some point. You are not alone.
2. Being yourself is good enough.
You are made in His image, with your own unique traits that make you who you are.
“Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you, and before you were born I set you apart and appointed you as my prophet to the nations.” – Jeremiah 1:5
Comparing ourselves to others is just not productive.
So just be who God created you to be.
And rock it.
3. Experiencing rejection gives you a heart for the rejected.
Rejection hurts, but if it helps you love others better, just maybe it’s worth it.
“Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and dearly loved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility and patience.” – Colossians 3:12
Maybe God uses the times in our lives that we feel rejected to develop compassion in our hearts for others.
4. Sometimes it’s all in your head.
We don’t always give others the benefit of the doubt, and what we perceive may not be reality.
Take a closer look. What seems like rejection may be unintentional.
5. Nobody is everybody’s favorite.
If someone doesn’t care to know and love you for who you are, try not to worry about it.
Sometimes people just don’t click. It’s nobody’s fault.
Accept it and move on.
If you have done something to cause someone not to like you, that’s different. Maybe you need to make amends.
“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” – Romans 12:18
But otherwise, don’t sweat it.
6. Stay humble.
Remember that if Jesus Himself was despised and rejected, there are times when you will be too.
“He was despised and rejected by mankind, a man of suffering, and familiar with pain. Like one from whom people hide their faces he was despised, and we held him in low esteem.” – Isaiah 53:3
Evaluate your heart to see why you feel rejected.
Is it because your pride has been hurt? If that’s the case, talk to the Lord about it.
Or if someone really has legitimately caused you to feel rejected? Talk to Him about that too. He can help with either situation.
“Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will lift you up.” – James 4:10
7. When you feel rejected, remember that you are loved!
Most importantly, remember that you are loved deeply and passionately by the God of the Universe.
If God is for you, who can be against you?
“What shall we say about such wonderful things as these? If God is for us, who can ever be against us?” – Romans 8:31
If God is for you…and He is…what does it matter if someone else isn’t crazy about you?
When you feel rejected, it hurts. But sometimes God uses the most painful circumstances we face to bring about the most powerful testimonies.
Whatever you go through in life can be used for His glory. God will never reject you. You have His unconditional acceptance always. What more could we need?